Day 2 – What I want to tell you about Introverts

My name is Angela and I am an Introvert.

Drawn to extroverts, I used to wish I was more outgoing like them, more of a jokester and more of the “life of the party” type. But alas, I’m not. And that’s okay. I am not even fun, really. (Also okay – a recent discovery). More reserved, I prefer one-on-one deep talks over low lighting and hot tea to the excitement of the latest social soirée.

Society seems to elevate extroverts and view them as the favored personality type. I believe that’s because they are more overt in their awesomeness. They are more of an open book. Introverts are awesome too but you have to be willing to crack the code before we’ll let you in. Sure, we’re tricky. But we’re worth the effort.

So, let me clear up a few misconceptions about us introverts. Once you understand us better maybe you’ll be more willing to solve the mystery that is the introverted personality. Pay attention:

1) Just because we’re quiet sometimes, doesn’t mean we’re not interested. We are! But, generally speaking, we don’t think quickly on our feet. We need time to gather our thoughts and formulate a clear, accurate picture of what we really think and feel. The last thing we would ever want to do is say something we’ll regret. So, cut us some slack; we speak with caution.

2) We are not going to jump at the chance to attend the next big social event. At least, not unless we are surrounded by close friends that we trust. The mere idea of meeting tons of new people all in one night is draining. We’ll do it. But we have to be in the right mood.

3) Let us be. After lots of socializing, we need time to ourselves. While you get energized being at big events with lots of people, we get energized being alone afterwards. Or debriefing with just one or two people. My husband is a big-time introvert, even moreso than me. During really busy seasons we like to schedule some time for ourselves to recover. In fact, I think my body physically rejects too much socializing at once. It seems like every time I overfill my calendar, I get sick. Coincidence? Nope, the life of an introvert.

4) Just because we need alone time doesn’t mean we hate people. I, for one, love people. I love being with people. I love learning about and understanding people. I have a degree in psychology for crying out loud. But that doesn’t mean I can be around them all the time.

I hope this clears things up a bit. This list is by no means comprehensive.

What about you extroverts? Need to clear the air?


  1. Sounds like I’m surrounded by introverts – you, Jake & Drew! Thanks for the tips. :)

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